Emotional Eating – damn you!

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I don’t particularly like chocolate, and the above picture uses doughnuts which I don’t particularly find THAT tempting, but the idea is there. I read an article called “Stressed is Desserts” Spelled Backwards which looks at the reasons why we, especially women, tend to eat when feeling emotional.

“Emotional eating is using your emotions as a driver for eating, as opposed to listening to your hunger cues.” This quote really hits home for me because it’s exactly what I do! When I’m marking terrible, terrible essays from the students at school, or sitting in front of the television bored out of my mind, or, more commonly, when I’m upset…damn you blokes!

I have recognised this quality and flaw in my dieting/healthy living plan and yet I continue to do it! Why? Why, if I recognise this as an issue, do I still do it anyway? I have no answers for you. Of course, if you’re emotionally eating grapes or apples or something….the issue, while needing to be addressed (why do you want to eat because you’re upset?) won’t negatively effect your diet too much…but when your fridge and cupboard is like mine (no junk food) and I have to make a special trip down to the corner deli, or to a fast food place…you know you’ve got a problem.

Did you know that Emotional Eating is actually recognised as a mild Eating Disorder? “Emotional eating can help temporarily fulfill a need.” That need could be stress, anger, sadness, or fatigue, among others. In the short-term, eating provides sensory pleasure and gives us an energy boost, which is why it makes us feel better. Okay, so I know why I eat emotionally, now I just need to be able to stop myself from doing it. I have photos of the way I want to look up on my fridge, but since there’s never bad food in there…it doesn’t help. I need to come up with a strategy to stop myself going out and getting ‘naughty’ food when it’s not my day/meal to be naughty.

If anyone has a strategy to stop this…please, please let me know…

[ I just checked with Elle and we would both love to get the answer to this!]

So until then, I will either have to keep myself from being bored or stop being/getting emotional. Hmmmm……

http://www.hercampus.com/health/mental-health/stressed-desserts-spelled-backwards-coping-emotional-eating

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A little bit more about Danii…

If you’ve read the ‘about’ section, you already know a little bit about me anyway, but I’ll give everyone a bit more info so you can see where I’m coming from in terms of diet and exercise. The easy stuff is my age and what I like to do, the harder stuff to talk about is why I have found it necessary to worry about my diet and exercise in the first place.

The first time I remember worrying about my weight is Yr 3; I looked in the mirror, burst into tears and told Mum that I wasn’t going to school because I looked fat in my school uniform. This obsession with my weight continued throughout the rest of my childhood and became even more of an issue when I was a teenager. In Yr 12 I managed to lose about 6 kgs, unfortunately I did it by restricting my calorie intake to a pretty stupid level, I also looked a bit ridiculous because I was completely out of proportion.

I really screwed it up when I started going out with my mates while studying at uni and working part-time at Kmart; I started drinking, A LOT, stopped watching what I was eating and I met someone. But that’s great I hear you cry! Sure it was, but he was (and is still) a lovely guy and even as I continued to pack on weight, eventually I stacked on 32 and a bit kilos, he continued to tell me I wasn’t fat and that I was still a good size. Even as the numbers on my clothing tags continued to creep upwards and skywards, I told myself it wasn’t my fault, it was the clothing shops, and every store that I had to buy a size bigger than size 14, was a store that was stocking clothes made by tiny, tiny women.

I only really realised how big I had actually become when I saw a photo of myself at a friend’s Hen’s Day; I couldn’t blame it on a clothing store, I couldn’t blame it on an unflattering camera angle – the truth was…I was fat. I had become the thing I most feared.  {The photo that woke me up is at the bottom of this post!}

The rest is a story for another day, but basically, I got my ass into gear. My diet changed radically, I sorted out (kinda sorted out) some serious medical issues that were affecting my ability to lose weight and I got into exercise in a serious way. {See photo at the bottom – that was at the end of last year I think} My diet, until the last month or so is as follows:

I count calories – I used to write them all down, along with my fat grams, carbohydrates, sugar and sodium, I’ve been a bit lazy lately as I’ve memorised most of the calories in the foods I eat the most. This is going to get me back in my groove…

Food:

Breakfast:

I’m very, very naughty and don’t eat breakfast – I’m not a morning person and the thought of food at 6, or even before 9am in the morning, makes me feel physically ill; I have a glass of Feel Good Iced Coffee each morning instead

250mls Feel Good Iced Coffee – 105 calories 1.2g fat

Snack:

170g Dairy Farmers Fat Free Yoghurt – 168 calories 2.7g fat or 200g Fruit Salad in natural juices – 74 calories 0.4g fat

Lunch:

Chicken and Salad Sandwich (or something similar) with 97% Fat Free Mayo – approx. 150-160 calories approx. 3.5g fat

Tea:

150g Grilled Chicken Breast – 142 calories 3.1g fat

100g Steamed Vegies – 96 calories 0.7g fat

Total:

On most days (very good days!): 671 calories 11.2 g fat

Exercise:

Monday and Wednesday: 40 minutes of netball

Tuesday and Thursday: weights at the gym

Saturday morning: short cardio and weights session at the gym

Friday and Sunday: Nothing!

I think that’s about it for now!

92.7 or maybe more

92.7 or maybe more

Approx 71kgs (middle)

Approx 71kgs (middle){

My plan – Elle

It’s another week, and another start back on my diet. I have stopped calling it a diet truthfully, and it has been a change of lifestyle. From cheap and quick meals, $1 pasta and $1 pasta sauce to properly cooked healthy meals $1 pasta (correct portion size…), and a lot of fresh vegetables, maybe with a $1 tin of tomatos, or low fat ricotta. It’s better for my family, and I’m giving my son the best start at life!
So why aren’t the kilos falling off? Plain and simple I over-eat between meals, bread bread bread, and a couple sweets, but mostly carbs. I eat when I’m putting off cleaning, because I’m thinking about a certain taste, but mainly putting off doing the housework by having a snack. I struggle to stop once I start, I think this stems from issues I had from when I was 15/16, but that is a whole life ago and my will power needs to get a work out.

While I’m at work two days a week as long as I have enough protein and enough water I’m fine, but at home, I just wander back into the kitchen to have another slice of bread, and that repeats all day. I find with a strict routine for myself (full of housework and playing with my son) fixes my unconscious eating and I can stick to 1200 calories easily. I guess, I know what I should do next and do that, rather than wander to the kitchen.

I’ve been 79 kilos at this height (42 weeks pregnant), and I’ve been 42 kilos at this height (issues at 15/16), and now all I want is to be happy and comfortable with my weight and I think that will be between 51-53kg.

With protein packed, and healthy 3 main meals at 300 calories each, and two snacks loaded with nutrients at 150 calories (1200 calories all up), my SAHM days planned out, and exercise three days a week (albeit at home), I know I can shed these 7-9 kilos!

An example of my 1200 calorie day when I stick to it?

Breakfast (9amish): CADA & Greek Yoghurt 250 calories

Lunch: Quiche (a 12WBT recipe) 300 calories

Snack: Two boiled eggs with curry powder 200 calories

Tea: A 12wbt recipe, falafels, vegetarian spaghetti bolognese, rissoles, homemade pizza, pasta with pumpkin and tomato with ricotta, etc, always 300 calories.

Snack: Four Premium crackers with vegemite under 150 calories